Why Emotionally Focused Therapy is Effective in Individual Counseling

In a former post, I examined Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through the lens of couples counseling. So, let’s recap a little about EFT.

A humanistic style of short-term psychotherapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy springs from an understanding of attachment theory. In other words, your EFT therapist will work with you to discern your attachment to your significant other. From there, it becomes easier to ease the present crisis and re-aim one’s focus to the causes that lie beneath, e.g. how and what you learned about attachment at a young age.

The Upside of Individual EFT Counseling

  • EFT is science-based without being overtly clinical
  • It is backed by a whole lot of empirical research
  • EFT therapists are well-trained and must maintain their studies in order to keep their certification
  • EFT therapists are not passive observers
  • You learn how to stop avoiding issues that make you feel uncomfortable
  • A deeper understanding of your own needs
  • Individual therapy has the added benefit of making you better equipped to understand your partner’s need and create sustainable relationships

Why Emotionally Focused Therapy is Effective in Individual Counseling

For Starters

You’ll be introduced to a wide range of concepts and techniques throughout the treatment sessions. Initially, these will include:

  1. Empathetic Listening
  2. Bond Forming
  3. Mirroring
  4. Reframing
  5. Track and Reflect
  6. Interrupt and Redirect

To understand these ideas, you can view this opening phase as a journey. The first two concepts formulate when and how the client and the therapist create a bond. In particular, the therapist works to understand the client’s perspective.

Concepts 3 and 4 empower the client by helping them feel understood. They no longer feel uniquely flawed or someone who is beyond help. Reframing flips the empathy script and allows the client to better perceive how the therapist views them.

The final two concepts are crucial. They keep the healing process in sharp focus. For example, if a problem is recurring and repeating as a relationship pattern, it will be identified as such. Also, when the client gets stuck or derailed, the therapist is now better positioned to get them and the process back on track.


  1. Validation
  2. Enhancing Vulnerable Emotions
  3. Clarifying
  4. Empathic Speculation
  5. Restructuring
  6. Encouragement
  7. Redirection

The heart of the treatment program commences with the basic act of making sure the client feels validated and moving away from self-blame. From this place of trust, the client can open up to having certain emotions heightened in the name of deeper understanding. Evocative responses from the counselor will help clarify what may appear vague.

Momentum is likely shifting powerfully forward by now. Guided by the therapist’s empathic speculation, the client opens up to new experiences and begins to restructure their perceptions. All along, the client will be encouraged and supported by their counselor.

Since no process is without setbacks or derailments, the EFT therapist will diligently and gently redirect their client when necessary.

Wrapping Up Treatment

If you’ve committed to this approach, you will eventually reach the stretch run. This means aftercare teaching from the therapist. EFT is not long-term. A lot happens in a short time. Your counselor will be there to guide you, support you, validate you, and make sure you don’t backslide into old habits.

Finding the Right EFT Counselor

EFT sounds interesting, right? Well, there is a bit of a catch. In order for Emotionally Focused Therapy to benefit you the most, you must commit to being honest and straightforward. Needless to say, this is sometimes easier said than done. I’ve used this process successfully and understand the challenges. If you’re willing to let down your guard, EFT can change your life in a relatively brief time period. Please contact me today to find out how to get this life-changing process started!